Tuesday, July 19, 2011


So there we are in triage, JK soaked in birthing fluid and blood.  I had phoned my mother, asking her to look in on Luke the Dog as the non-stress test dragged on.  Now I call her a second time.

"It's coming down now!" I tell her in a voice that betrays my lack of calm.

In the mean time, a gurney rolls in and JK soon rolls out and toward pre-op.  As she is prepped for surgery, I phone her mother and best friend.  I promise I will keep both posted.  But it's difficult to do so, because I'm in a daze myself.

Dr. B is there with one of her partners and they are scrubbing up for surgery.  It will be an emergency c-section.  A rush to get the babies out, because something is amiss.

A placental abruption occurs when the placenta shears away from the uterine wall.  A partial abruption risks fetal health, and depending upon the severity of the tear, sometimes results in stillbirth.  The fetus loses its oxygen source when the placenta shears completely away.

Placental abruption results in stillbirth 20-40% of the time.

Our son, closer to the cervix than our daughter, was the victim.  His placenta had sheared completely away.  Time was of the essence.

We've gone over it a thousand times, JK and me.  What if she hadn't paid attention to the signals?  What if I had not heard something in her voice that made me listen?  What if the abruption had happened on the way?  What if we were too late.  What if luck wasn't on our side?

The answer, as you might have guessed, and confirmed by Dr. B: our son would not have survived.

I will always be grateful to JK for listening to the signs.  She saved his life.  I figure she has about a bazillion samolians stored away against all future parental screwups.  Forever, she will be a good mommy, because she started so remarkably well.

Dr. B got the two of them out, and our daughter was fine.  Our son's one minute apgar score was five.  They got the blood out of his lungs, and the five minute apgar was eight.

Though we had passed the most awful obstacle, there would be others.  He wasn't in the clear.


  1. I'm glad to have found a blog where the Daddy is the blogger! I'm going to share this with my DH who is struggling during our own infertility and loss journey. Thanks for sharing!

  2. Wow! That's unbelievably frightening. Glad everyone survived!

  3. Wow, I can't even imagine what it would like to be in that situation. I am also glad you followed your instincts.


  4. Visiting from ICLW. I am so happy to hear that your story had a happy ending. I was not so lucky and my son was stillborn at 36 weeks. Not from a placental abruption but from an infection. Next time around I will be much more vigilant.

  5. Hello from ICLW! I am so happy to hear that the babies made it out safely. I had never heard of placental abruption before, and I can not even imagine what it was like to go through that. So glad everyone made it out okay.

    ICLW #114

  6. What a frightening experience. So glad to hear that both of your babies survived. JK is going to be an amazing mom, and you're going to be a wonderful dad.

  7. So scary! I'm glad to hear that both of your kids survived! I hope they are both doing well now.

  8. I'm glad they were able to get them out safely, there is nothing scarier than worrying something bad will happen to your babies.


  9. First, congratulations on the arrival of your twins! I'm glad that your wife, son, and daughter are OK!

    Stopping by from ICLW, wishing you all the best after a long journey to become a parent!

  10. Just found this blog on Stirrup Queens but the spirit moved me to comment -- Praise God your twins & JK are safe, so many congratulations to you!

  11. What a terrifying experience. Thank you for sharing!

  12. Wow! I'm here from ICLW and I'm pumped to have found this blog. I'm enjoying reading your perspective on fertility as a daddy. I study and write about gender, so I love to see a daddy-blogger!

    Thanks for informing all of us on your experiences.

  13. It was a good news that both of you help each other with this kind of situation. Pregnancy and child labor is the very crucial stage of a woman. They will experience a lot of things and it is important for them to listen to every signs that comes out. Women should also remember that they bring life within their tummy. In case you have fertility concerns, I found this site that maybe helpful. http://www.natural-fertility-prescription.com