Monday, January 3, 2011

Pilot: The First Bad News

JK and I got married in May of 2008 and started trying to get pregnant right away.  After all, I was 39 at the time and JK was 36.  Why wait?

We successfully got pregnant on the second attempt.  Second attempt!  Not bad.  I remember exactly what I was doing when we learned of the pregnancy.  We were holed up at my Chicago apartment.  JK had given up her place and we were searching for a house.  I was the early riser and so got up one Saturday morning and got started on my favorite vice, FullTiltPoker.

JK woke up and grabbed the stick.  Moments later, I was staring at the double line, and experiencing elation.

We agreed that we would not talk about the pregnancy until after the 1st trimester.  The only people who learned of the pregnancy were JK's fitness instructors.  Unfortunately one misunderstood, "You can not talk about this with anyone.  Not even our folks know."  That instructor knew my mother and I feared that word might get back to her.

Shortly thereafter, JK encountered uncomfortable questioning from my mother.  Two weeks later, we learned that JK had miscarried.

Next time: The First Miscarriage


  1. Here via Mel's blog. What a supremely crappy story and I'm sorry it happened to you. I understand completely - my sister-in-law sold me out in much the same manner.

  2. hi...i came across your blog tonight and am so sorry for the tough journey you and your wife have gone through. it's always great to see a happy ending to a story. i admire that you are open and share and write about all your experiences. my husband and i have been ttc for about 20 months so far and have had 5 miscarriages in a row due to my husband's chromosomal inversion. if you are interested, my blog is at
    looking forward to following! :)