In basketball as in all sports, the most painful game to lose is the game you thought you had won. Just as snatching victory from the jaws of defeat is the sweetest win.
Just ask any Kentucky fan whether they still remember Christian Laettner's buzzer beater in the NCAA Regional Final. Believe me, they remember. And they still desperately want to forget.
Infertility has its share of buzzer beaters too. Every victory seems so hard won. Every step a struggle.
The ultimate buzzer beater in infertility is the complicated birth. I speak from experience. Life will be sweeter, knowing how close we came at the end to losing our son. There was even the possibility that I might end up alone or without JK.
Each of those possibilities is a nightmare, and each day with them is all the sweeter. We did snatch victory from the jaws of defeat.
I often ponder whether miscarriages are more painful than the inability to conceive or vice versa. Each miscarriage is a bit like losing by buzzer beater. But what of the ongoing, never-ending dull ache of not playing? Honestly I do not know. I only ask these sorts of questions because I want to better understand that side.
But there is a point to my aside. I learned that Georgia State Representative Bobby Franklin tried to pass a law that called miscarriages felony murder, unless you could prove that absolutely no human intervention took place. The latest news I have seen indicates that his bill has been shelved, and thank goodness for that. But folks, have you ever heard of a less humane proposal by an elected official?
Consider this from my viewpoint and JK's. We had three miscarriages, and all were expelled with human intervention. Does that make JK three times a murderer? I've read bloggers with eight miscarriages. How many times does Bobby Franklin wish to put the same woman to death?
Insult to injury. A woman who miscarries dies a little inside. Is that not punishment enough for anyone?
Residents of Marietta, Georgia (a Northwest Atlanta Suburb) please consider this plea: you can punish Bobby Franklin by denying him your vote in future elections. I do not blame you for his actions. I come from Illinois, home of two governor felons! If the US Constitution guarantees us all Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Happiness, and a politician wants to deny some women all three... well, that fellow has got to go.
I'll be tweeting updates on this and any other social injustices directed toward the infertility community, until such a time as humanity and compassion replaces callousness and hate.
I will not hold my breath.